Dating Influencer Tells Women to Drop ‘Girl Boss’ Attitudes for Men

Margarita Nazarenko has dating advice for women — and it’s a little different from what else is out there.

The popular influencer, who has more than 2 million followers between TikTok and Instagram, told Fox and Friends viewers during a Monday, August 4, appearance that women need to stop applying “girl boss” energy to dating because “it just doesn’t work the same.”

“Chasing a guy down does not get you the relationship that you want,” Nazarenko continued.

Her advice intrigued the show’s hosts, who asked her to elaborate. Instead of pushing a man to change by repeatedly making demands, she continued, women should “tell him once what you don’t like and then just start looking better.”

“The real advice is that men respond well when you tell them once,” Nazarenko continued. “When you don’t nag them, and they will act on it if they like you enough. And women always ask me, ‘What if they don’t act on it?’ Well, then, maybe he’s not the guy for you. Because if he liked you enough, he would change.”

That isn’t too different from the kind of advice Nazarenko often shares via social media — which tends to get big responses from the people who follow her.

“If your man is acting in a way that you don’t like, any kind of way that you don’t like, and you don’t know what to do about it because you’ve tried crying, you’ve tried nagging and you’ve tried everything else in between, I’m here to tell you what to do because the fundamental thing that you don’t understand is what boundaries are,” she said in a TikTok video shared on Sunday, August 3.

“Because you think boundaries are making someone act in the way that you want them to act, taking a person and making them different, right? In reality, boundaries are what you will accept around yourself and therein lies the crux of what you don’t understand,” she continued before adding that instead of telling their male partners what they can or can’t do, “all you have to do is you set a boundary of what is okay for you, not what the other person can do.”

The message prompted a series of comments from her followers, including many in which someone asked for more advice. “I would love more examples like this as well bc if ur married and u tell him this and he continues to come home late that sounds like a divorce is coming,” wrote one fan. “I’m not in this situation but I am very intolerant of a lot of things and I’m trying to find a balance bc im getting rid of everyone at this point. The stronger my boundaries get the less people I have around me, family included.”

Others, however, weren’t as convinced by her perspective. “Okay, so if you tell him don’t come home because you set that boundary, and he doesn’t then what? Because this is another limitation being pushed causing another issue,” another fan claimed on the same video.

In a second video shared on TikTok July 28, Nazarenko insisted men will not marry a “pick me girl” who has “already given him everything that he will get in a marriage.” She added, “Why sign the contract?”

According to her website, Nazarenko is also the author of the book The New Rules: The Ultimate Guide to Being Her. “Margarita Nazarenko tells it like it is when it comes to women and relationships – and women’s relationships with themselves,” the book’s synopsis reads. “A qualified life coach, YouTuber and TikTok sensation, Margarita advises women not only about how to navigate relationships with men, but how to create wonderful lives with or without a relationship. Her message is straightforward: don’t expect to have a great life if you’re not creating it for yourself first.”

Nazarenko grew up in the U.K. and has lived in Australia with her husband and their two children for 15 years, according to an August 3, report from Fox News.

She told the media outlet that when she was young she wanted to be an actress, but her current career makes a lot of sense for her because it’s all about bringing people together. “What I really wanted to do was connect to people, be on stage and have that kind of connection that I have now,” Nazarenko explained.

She began coaching women in love and life after being inspired by author Tony Robbins. “What I did was, I thought, what really appeals to me and that was expansion and self-expansion and growth like Tony Robbins and doing all that self-work,” Nazarenko explained. “So I went and I did a life coaching diploma. From doing that, I realized that I love doing it. I started coaching women.”