'You' Cast's Dating Histories Through the Years

Love can be messy, but luckily for the cast of You, their offscreen relationships aren't as rocky as those of their characters. The drama premiered on Lifetime in September 2018, starring Penn Badgley, Ambyr Childers, Elizabeth Lail and more. Based on Caroline Kepnes' novel of the same name, season 1 followed Joe Goldberg (Badgley) as he went to extreme lengths to pursue a relationship with aspiring writer Beck (Lail). At first, the series didn't take off, but it picked up a major following when it moved to Netflix. Season 2 dropped on the streaming platform in December 2019, and the following month, a third season was confirmed. Badgley thought “there’s value” in Joe not being a traditional romantic lead, he told IndieWire in December 2019. "I mean … I think a lot of what we talk about, the way they talk about love, in pop culture and as long as it ever has been pop culture, is actually quite distorted and sometimes — if not most of the time — has nothing to do with true love. Because true love is something that can be expressed between many different kinds of people, not just people who are romantically interested." The MOTHXR musician continued, "I think a lot of times what we're talking about when we say 'love' is actually lust. There's nothing inherently wrong with lust, but I mean, it obviously doesn't always compel us to do the best thing." Scroll down to see the cast's dating histories through the years:

The Gossip Girl alum dated costar Blake Lively from 2007 to 2010 before he moved on with Zoë Kravitz in 2011. The duo called it quits in 2013. One year later, Badgley sparked a romance with Kirke, whom he wed in 2017. They welcomed a son in August 2020 and identical twin sons in September 2025.

The Once Upon a Time actress married longtime love Nieku Manshadi in April 2021. The couple, who met at a Brooklyn party, got engaged in August 2020.

The Dollface star shares two children with partner Matte Babel. She was previously linked to Jimmy Butler and Pretty Little Liars costar Keegan Allen.

In 2009, the actress exchanged vows with producer Randall Emmett. They welcomed two daughters — London and Rylee — before splitting in April 2015, and their divorce was finalized two years later. Emmett moved on with ex-fiancée Lala Kent, with whom he shares daughter Ocean.

Based on his social media activity, the New Jersey native, who played bad-boy Benji in season 1, appears to be single. He was previously linked to actress Kelli Garner in the mid-2000s.

The '90s hunk married model Rebecca Romijn in September 1998, but six years later, they called it quits. More than a decade after his divorce was finalized in March 2005, Stamos got engaged to actress Caitlin McHugh. They tied the knot in February 2018 and welcomed their son, Billy, two months later.

The Pennsylvania native, who plays Love Quinn, prefers to keep her private life separate from her career. In November 2021, Us confirmed that Pedretti and You costar Dylan Arnold were dating after keeping their relationship "under wraps for a few months."  In July 2025, Pedretti confirmed her engagement to photographer Ethan DeLorenzo. 

The You season 2 actress has been linked to teen stars, including Shazam actor Asher Angel and Jacob Sartorius, but appears to be enjoying the single life.

Nef, who starred as one of Beck's classmates in season 1, has written candidly about her dating life in the past, but doesn't seem to be in a relationship.

Peter Gallagher's daughter appeared on season 1 of the thriller as Beck's friend Annika. The Tony nominee frequently shares photos of her friends and promotes her music, but no significant other has graced her social media.

The Batwoman star, who played Lynn on season 1, is currently focused on self-love.

The Hot Seat actress was rumored to be dating You season 2 costar James Scully, but the fan theories proved to be untrue.

In November 2014, the Accepted star told Glamour that he had been married for three years but preferred "to keep it private." He publicly came out as gay during a 2015 episode of "The Nerdist Podcast." His husband, Richard DiBella, is a production designer.

When asked whether his work reflected his life off screen, the openly gay actor told Glamour in December 2019, "I play a lot of psychopaths and drug addicts, so I guess I hope not." He also noted that he doesn't "really" have a type, seemingly declaring his single status.